From the author of Conscious Parenting, Dr. Shefali Tsabary talks with Oprah about how we, as parents, are actually still growing and learning. Also, watch her YouTube video at the end.
“Every conflict is a reflection of how we yet have to develop our undeveloped selves. If you’re really honest with yourself, you will see that we are just children raising children. Do you want to know what your children would say to you? They would say to you, ‘Mommy, Daddy, love me, protect me, I’ll even let you lead me, but the best gift you can give me is to grow yourself up.’
The conscious parent understands that this is a journey; this is not some perfect destination where you get an award. It is a constant state of evolution; where moment after moment after moment your child acts as your mirror. Your child, through every interaction you have, you’re really interacting with yourself. In every way that you relate to your child, it is a reflection of how you relate to your own inner world.
Child to parent, “I love you. You are my first love affair.”
There is no greater love than a child’s love for us.
This is the dogma that is at the core of the bully epidemic. It’s at the core of the violence that we are seeing in the world.”
~ Dr Shefali Tsabary