Have you ever wondered if you are doing a good job when it comes to being a mate? Are you giving your partner what he needs in order to feel happy, confident, and successful? Or do you just go through the motions each day, not paying attention to the little details that can make or break a relationship?
Here is just one way you can help make your relationship run smoother on a daily basis:
Since each day brings about many different events and emotions—happy, sad, upsetting, and chaotic, you can’t be sure how you are going to feel at any given moment. Depending on what is occurring in that instance or what you have put up with all day long, your mood can fluctuate by the time you reconnect with your sweetheart. Stop and consider if you are a source of pleasure or pain when your man walks through the door.
Think about it—have you ever stepped into a situation, whether you be at home, work, or some other location, only to find drama coming at you from all different directions—and you weren’t expecting any of it? How did that make you feel? Immediately, you probably became stressed or overwhelmed at the circumstances. Then again, maybe you just turned around and walked away from the matter. Whatever you did, I’m sure it wasn’t what you had expected at the time. After that bout of drama, how did the rest of your day or evening go? Stressful moments can easily put a damper on your day, affecting each and every interaction you come across thereafter.
Try to put yourself in your man’s shoes. Determine what it is that you would like from him when you come in after a hard day’s work; then give that to him. You certainly don’t like being bombarded with problems right away.
Your home should be about rescue, companionship, support, and praise—not another place that hands him problems, disapproval, and criticism on a regular basis. First and foremost, make your man feel like your hero. He needs to know that home is his castle and that his biggest fan is there; behind him all the way.
Absolutely, all of us have drama in our lives at one time or another, and there are unquestionably going to be times that the commotion just can’t wait, but for the most part your dilemma or drama can wait until later—when the time is right.
Now that you are making a conscious choice about what you present to your guy, you can give him a chance to unwind, greet him with a tender kiss and hug, and talk about the pleasantries of the day.
After you both had time to reconnect in a positive way, the time will come when the issues can be addressed. Your guy will find it much easier and a lot less stressful to talk about them once he had the opportunity to enjoy the idea of coming home to you.
Food for Thought: Did you know that 75 percent of men admitted that they feel like an imposter? Many spend their entire lives fighting the voices in their head that constantly shout, “You really don’t know what you are doing! It’s just a matter of time before everyone discovers you’re a fake! You are a fraud!”—http://www.crosswalk.com/11590402/page4/
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